You were never too much, sis.
Decentering Men, Reclaiming Self is a reflection journal for women who are ready to stop shrinking, performing, and over-functioning in the name of being chosen.
This isn’t about finding the right man.
It’s about remembering who you are when you stop revolving around them.
Through real talk, powerful prompts, and no-fluff self-examination, this journal helps you:
Unlearn the belief that your worth depends on desirability
Identify the emotional labor, people-pleasing, and pick-me patterns that have drained you
Reclaim your standards, boundaries, and self-devotion
Explore the freedom, fullness, and peace of choosing yourself—without guilt
Whether you're single, dating, healing, or done altogether, this journal is not about becoming harder to get.
It’s about becoming unavailable to anyone who requires your self-betrayal.
You don’t need to be chosen.
You need to come home to yourself.
This is a great workbook to help us decolonize ourselves and reclaim our true self from patriarchal conditioning. The author is very skillful at providing prompts to inspire deep reflection.
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Victoria M.
Honestly I thought I had done a lot of the work of decentering men, and I was a little surprised at just how much internalized mysogyny I still have to unpack, BUT, I am so thankful I found this resource and it is so well written and well laid out so that it makes those layers easy (in an intellectual sense, sometimes difficult emotionally if I'm honest) to work through.
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Virginia S.
I only made it part way through the boundaries Bible but I can tell every other workbook is going to be amazing. You can tell she put a lot of effort and care into everything.
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Queenie K.
I am so incredibly grateful for the work Kiki has done and I am grateful to learn and grow from that work. I have learned a lot from following Kiki and this journal is helping me do a deeper dive into decentering men. As a recovering pick me, this journal is helping me to center myself and claim back my own power as a woman. Thank you, Kiki for you.
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Shanelle
I was worried I might’ve gotten it to small but it fits me pretty well big belly and all
"Why Do" Women's Softstyle Tee
Dale C.
I am still working through the book. It takes a lot of reflection and serious thought to answer the questions on each page. It’s been so good for me. But I also feel like I’m kind of in a vacuum. I wish I was doing this with a group of people. I also have to live with the fact that while it’s doing some wonderful things for me and how I view the world and and my role in it, I also realized that I’m pissing off some of the people that live in my world with me. Because they’re tired of hearing about it. But that’s OK. They’re gonna keep hearing about it.
Decentering Whiteness... For White People Perfect Bound Paperback
Laura L.
My daily use mug 😁
Male Tears Logo Mug | Ceramic Coffee Cup 11oz 15oz
Jessica B.
A lovely book. I really like that you can write your own affirmations together!
Sunni Learns to Shine
Shanelle
It fits and I love the cloth you chose. Thanks so much for having fun merch I can support you with. I’ll probably get more.
