100% highly recommended, I follow the author on Facebook, and her thoughts and insights have really made me think. I've been using this book regularly alongside my therapy sessions, nd my therapist commented tonight on how much stronger and clearer im sounding around boundaries and acceptance. I'm very glad I bought this, I also have decentreing whiteness, and will be buying the rest of Kiki's work when I have the funds.
If you struggle with boundaries, setting, maintaining them, even them in the first place, this book is for you. If you have CPTSD, this is for you. If you're autistic or have ADHD, its for you. If you've ever been a victim of SA or DV, its for you.
If you want to set healthy boundaries, or understand why others have them,this book is for you.
Its extremely good value for money, accessible, and you can use it either digitally, on a tablet, or print it and work on paper if you're old fashioned like me.
Buy it, and support this amazing author
I expected to feel uncomfortable going through this book, I did not expect to feel the relief I do from it. Having it be a work book that literally walks you through the process of the needed internal work was incredible, and while it was embarrassing to witness myself in a way I hadn't before I am appreciative for that clarity. Highly recommend, especially if you think you are already a "good ally".
You'll get out whatever you're prepared to put in. Excellent material, very relevant.
This soft cover spiral bound version is a great addition to any white person who wishes to unpack their biases. My version arrived within 14 calendar days. There's many thought provoking prompts to guide you through your shadow work (that's what I call yet for me). The design gives you enough room to journal your thoughts, is plain and direct in tone while encouraging you to be
Sit with discomfort. Growth requires some growing pains. Ms. Bryant put together a wonderful journal that I intend to suggest to others. Thank you for this crucial resource, friend. (⊙‿⊙✿)
worth not just the read, but the reflection. do the work, seriously. stop wasting time asking other people to do it for you, or waiting for inspiration or clarity to fall into your lap. I didn't realize how much unlearning I needed to do until my mid 20s, and I still mess up every day. Don't get mad when you get called out, especially when it isn't sugar coated. You aren't owed a life without inconvenience or discomfort, and the only reason white people, myself included, believe that we do is because of the privilege we've been afforded by our surroundings outlined in this workbook.
Recognize that, own it, and do the work without crying about it. This is an excellent place to start.
